How to Start a Conversation on Tinder (Without Being Creepy)
You saw, you swiped, you matched. Now you’re staring at a blinking cursor wondering what you can possibly say to stand out from the dozens-or hundreds-of dudes trying to seal the deal.
You can find a lot of online dating gurus who sell courses that are “guaranteed” to get you responses from your Tinder messages. But the truth is the best Tinder openers don’t fit into a formula. You have to consider the context, the other person’s profile, and your own intentions.
So, rather than giving you a long list of pickup lines, we’re going to teach you the principles of starting a conversation on Tinder (which aren’t that different from starting a conversation in real life).
Whether you’re looking for a soulmate or a hookup, you’ll learn how to craft a convo that makes you stand out from the crowd. Grab your notebook-Tinder class for dudes is in session.
Prime Your Profile for Conversation
Before you send any messages, take a step back and review your Tinder profile. No matter how talented of a wordsmith you are, a lackluster profile will crush your chances of having a good conversation.
First impressions are quite literally everything on dating apps, so make sure you put your best foot (or face, rather) forward. Here are some quick tips:
- Use good quality photos that are recent
- Showcase your hobbies (candid pictures are ideal)
- No group pics-keep it to three people, max
- Smile, but maybe avoid soy face
- Write a short Tinder bio that shows your sense of humor
- Link your Instagram or Spotify feed to your profile
- Get feedback from a trusted female
Once your profile is polished and you have a match in your queue, it’s time to draft your first message.
5 Tinder Conversation Starters
The bad news about Tinder is that your competition is stiff: it’s the most popular dating app with more than a million downloads every month. The good news is most guys suck at starting conversations, so your barrier to entry is probably lower than you think.
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